Amelia, I've been following with interest, your progress in building your houseboat, on several different Forums, and congratulations to you and to your "builder." Your ideal approach would be to have a treatment system, such as a Purasan or an electro-scan, AND a small holding tank, in the range of 10 or 15 gallons, rather than going to the expense of the Hold 'N Treat system. You would install a "Y" valve between the toilet and the treatment system. One output from the "Y" valve would go to the treatment system, then overboard. The other output from the "Y" valve would go to the holding tank.
In normal situations, the toilet would flush to the treatment system, where the effluent would be treated, then sent overboard. Should you go into a No Discharge Zone, you'd change the position of the "Y" valve, and the toilet would pump directly to the holding tank. The holding tank, when full, would have to be pumped out at a dockside facility, so you'd need a deck pumpout fitting with a hose running from there to the bottom of the holding tank.
But in looking at your home port (Edenton), it would appear that the majority of your boating will be done in Albemarle Sound and Pamlico Sound, with the possibility of going down the ICW maybe as far as Cape Fear, and maybe north to the Virginia State line. Anywhere beyond that, you'd have to go out in the ocean - not likely, nor wise, with a houseboat. So you'll pretty much always be in an area that permits the discharge of treated waste. If it were I, I'd simply go with the treatment system and forget all about having a holding tank. Should you ever decide to move the boat to a No Discharge area, such as Lake Norman, you can always go with a Porta Potty and empty it when on shore. As big as that boat is, correct me if I'm wrong, but I can't envision you ever transporting it over land to any distant locations which are popular houseboating areas, such as Lake Powell, Lake Mead or the California Delta area. Lake Cumberland, in Kentucky, is another popular houseboating area, but they do currently allow treatment systems there.
As far as bidet seats go, my background (and sympathies) goes in the opposite direction - outhouses and Sears catalogs.

I really don't have much of a favorable feeling about them. Raritan offered them several years back but the sales just weren't there, so they were discontinued. At best, they're a compromise. If you want to have a bidet, get a real one - don't get something that's basically just a (not so) cheap imitation - just offering my $.02.
Seriously, when I was a little kid back in the '40's, we did have an outhouse, right here in New Jersey - a good one, though - it was built by the WPA. When you went out there in the winter time, you didn't sit and read magazines for half an hour - too cold!