I thought you were given a good starting point in the previous thread, but parhaps a little expansion will be useful.
http://www.boatered.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=209063
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In words, the concept is easy. Set up the engine start battery and engine/alternator as a stand alone, serving NO other loads.
This will allow the engine to use the start battry to srart up, and also allow the alternator to resrote and maintain the stat battery at full charge.
Next:
Use either a diode type or a relay type :battery isolator to deal with charging the house bank.
THe relay type device will activate only once the start batery circuit maintains a "fully charged" voltage. It then opens ( paralleling the banks ) and this will cause the original bank abnd alternator to charge the house bank.
The catch: a) Not only will the alternator charge the House, but also the Start battery will contribute to the charging process.
Not ideal, but it is very simple to set up and requires no user input to operate. Many boaters use such a setup.
A diode system is similar, with two ( actually three ) differences: THe Original stary battery section will not drop below "fully charged" voltage, and there will be no reverse flow. The third item is how to wire it which can get confusing. The diode will cause a 0.6 volt drop in the circuit so the house side of the circuit will be about a half colt lower than the srart side. THere are workaroounds...
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I have not addressed the issue of mixing battery types. I do not personally know the charging requirements of a Lithium bank. Which is why I skipped all of this explanation and suggested going direct to the Lithium battery vendor. Who should ( if competent ) have all of the required info handy, in an easy to explain package.
There are different Lithium chemistries, which have different stats. And they all differ from Lead acid. Consideering that you want a robust and safe system, it would be best to get the info from someone who should have the knowledge ( and tools ) required. Messing up a large battery bank can get very messy and hazardous... You want it right the first time.
IMHO, of course. But is should be an entertaining learning experience.
Let us know what you decide!